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PsyYogi - Emotion Mastery Series
Preventing Emotional Excesses.
"The mysteries of our lives are the real treasures to unravel." - PsyYoga.org
Our emotions are the most beautiful aspect of us, without which we are just mechanical robots, yet, it's the most vulnerable part us. Our emotions can make or break us depending upon our mastery over them.
People who are prepared to handle the harsh realities of life, face to face, aren't simply the lucky ones. They have made themselves to be so. Overcome their fears to see things through.
They have put in time, efforts, experiences, sacrifices, and subsequent conditioning to rise to this position.
They have experienced tough times themselves and are the ones who had taken the lead to face tougher situations when others simply hid away from it. They are also the ones who choose not to let go, but take things in their own hands, and make good happen for them, and for others.
Their life is a series of trails and triumphs, they had to sometimes fight for their survival, face criticism, threats, all the while waging a war within themselves and facing its turbulences just to make something happen instead of being a bystander, ultimately, all these experiences adds up and after facing tons of challenges they are here, strong inside out. A true PsyYogi in spirit and deed.
Those are the real heroes, the real ones who deserve salute. They are the ones who silently triumph, and also live their dream while helping others in whatever way possible by their active
participation rather being a passive spectator.
We at PsyYoga applaud their spirit. The spirit of courage of 'The real Soul' to face the rough weathers of life, and yet find the resources to help others by lending their hand. They are the true movers and the shakers. All that this civilization has achieved is because of them.
On the other end, we also find lots of people in our society both young and old always looking for ways to live their life in the fairy tale bubble.
Unexposed to the happenings, the storms and the lessons of life.
They don't revolt even in the face of injustice meted out on them or to people around them. These people always look for ways and shortcuts to escape from the harsh and difficult experiences of life. Most of them make money, live a cool life but not a precious life.
Yes, they may seem very lucky souls at first look, some of them are lucky and escape the harsh world but most of them may not remain lucky always. Some of them may become prone to fragility psychologically. Some vulnerable to some bigger issue someday and may need professional help. These are happening around us, we just need to notice.
Life throws its challenges and its essential to get one prepared for all kinds of up's and down's in our bodies, relationships, aging, competition etc., For some, helicopter parenting is to be blamed for some other its comfort zone addiction. Exposing oneself to all weathers of life isn't bad idea, it makes one stronger.
Look at the animals in the wild and the domesticated animals, we can instantly spot the difference, while one category is exposed, another concealed. Their built, behaviors, survival instincts, everything is so different in both cases.
Nature is the best Teacher. No doubts about that.
We need to expose ourselves to the rains, the sunshine, the sunsets and the sunrises, the storms of life. Life throws various challenges too often, and it's not easy to handle all those challenges swiftly without experience and exposure, both good and bad, and everything isn't rosy at all stages on one’s existence.
I've
always said, Experiences and Environments are needed to build one's
psychology.
"The stronger the experiences, and the environments of the person, the stronger is that person's psychology."
It's my Quote. Let it be.
But
what I'm going to discuss here is for the benefit of PsyYogi or the one who aspire to be a PsyYogi, is neither about escaping the
storms of life nor about facing it.
I'm
adding a new dimension to it.
In
the sense, we can actually design the reality we want to be in, and live in
that real reality.
How
to Create the real reality we want to live in?
Creating the reality we want it to be in, is nothing but designing the way we want to respond to the world.
No, I'm not talking
about virtual reality, but about something more exciting and opposite called "Real Reality"
Is that Possible?
The answer is Yes!
Various researches
in neuroscience over the years reveal this fantastic concept.
What is
"Create the Real Reality" all about?
In simple terms:
"Create the real reality is to design the way we want to respond to the world and embed that into our psyche system for autopilot results."
I'm applying that concept in the practice of PsyYoga.
To explain that concept:
I have mentioned in
my various articles, that "our unique experiences constitute our psychology, and
the environment we live in impacts those experiences."
"Our life is simply a reflection of our unique psychology."
No two people's
experiences in life are the same. Thus, no two people's psychology are
same too.
Now, based on our
distinct and unique psychology, we form our belief system. These belief systems
are deeply embedded within us.
We respond to the
word based on that belief system. We also tend to learn and align all the
knowledge that we have gained in life in line with our belief system,
sometimes, both personally and professionally.
Our belief system
becomes the roots to further our psychological growth. This completes the cycle
and then repeats itself.
We usually respond
to the world around us base on our belief system that we have embedded deep
within ourselves.
Lets say for
example, if respecting elders in our family with a folded hands and a namaste is given prime importance, then
this slowly becomes a part of our experiences thus contributing to our unique
psychology and that gets deeply embedded into our psyche.
We tend to follow
that system irrespective of what we are, what we become or where we are. We
tend to unconditionally respect elders in our families with this custom, because that's imbibed
in our deep psychology.
But it's not an ideal world anymore.
Unfortunately.
There could be
times `when everything that is imbibed in our belief system might suddenly
cripple.
An elderly person
doesn't behave that way he/she is intended by us, pressure and the harsh
realities of life takes the toll on some of them and they reflect it on us too.
At times, its
something else that's short circuiting our belief system.
It could be due to
some sudden or an unexpected loss we face, or some sort of frustrations over
negative results from our past decisions, or some dissatisfaction that has
developed due to our own inactions on some matters of personal or professional
importance.
At these times, it
so happens that, we strongly believe in something, but have to out and do something
else. Our actions and our belief system does not sync.
We wanted to behave
in a particular way but we might go haywire with our emotions and behave just
the opposite based on our false assumptions or unaccepting ignorance or at times, one could display
sheer arrogance.
The embedded
instructions have become disturbed.
To cite another
example, we know that excess anger is a dangerous negative emotion.
Particularly when
vented out on people those are dear to us, we never wanted to do it, yet at
times, we tend to lose our temper on them.
"Sometimes our emotional currents are so strong that it overtakes our belief system." - PsyYoga.org
Note that point, in
those situations, our psychology acts in the opposite direction. We see the Reverse Psychology and thus, may
compel us to display excessive anger, which might turn out to be catastrophic
to our relationships.
Now, we very well
known that meting out that kind of anger on someone who is so beloved to
us wasn't needed in the first place and actually it's isn't what we honestly
intended.
But what to do, it happens that way, automatically(autopilot), without an opportunity for us to re-think, what we just did.
A simple survival emotion has turned against us, and sometimes against our loved ones.
Though, we very well know that's isn't right, yet we commit the mistake of excesses. The force needed to handle a jar made of glass and the one made of steel are not equal. While one needs the fineness and the other some power. Relationships are like glass, once broken due to the perils of hanger, its impossible to bring it to its original form.
We sometimes
wonder, how and why we did that? We can't believe we shouted, became
violent or hurled hurting words.
Because words
said in anger is more intense and hurting.
People may forget a
slap, but not a hurting word that was accidently hurled at them.
"Preventing the excesses in emotions from happening is the primary goal of PsyYoga practice."
The primary
foundational belief of PsyYoga is to condition our psyche system and balance it
through simple tools and techniques that will help us bridge the gap between
what we know, and what we do in various difficult situations in autopilot mode.
If this one
concept in put to right use, there wouldn't be so many divorces happening in
our society, and so many kids wouldn't be raised by a single parent denying the
love, affection and care of the other partner.
This balance is
what we strive to achieve through PsyYoga by a concept called the "PsyYoga
affirmations" which is meant to embed what one knows already and the way one wants
to be into one's own psyche system.
So that, those
instructions are automatically executed in situations that warrant it, like the
one I mentioned above paragraphs.
Those instructions
will act like a reflex thus preventing damage. Like airbags in a car that opens
up during an impact to prevent loss of life. Like a fuse in an electric
circuit, protecting from burnout during a short circuit.
Those embedded
instructions will save our relationship with our own self and with others on
which our life is based.
Anger is just one
example and many more emotions in excesses does more damage than many would anticipate.
Reasons for anger
might vary, we all know that we all get angry on others, but the catch here is
that, no two people’s reasons or angry creating situations are the same.
So there in no one
step formula for all.
It all depends on
their individuals needs and wants an that moment, and is based on their
unique psychology that they have built based on their unique experiences
that they had exposed themselves to, all through in their lives, (sometime good,
sometimes bad) compounded and influenced by the environment in which they were
raised (loving, or distrust and harsh etc.,).
So, the truth is
that the Big reason for their instant and excessive anger
varies from person to person.
Most peoples ravishing in prisons are in one way or the other replated to their committing excesses in their emotions.
It might appear
quite simple and easy, but for people who face it on a day-to-day basis and
sometimes lose their beloved and relationships to the ravages of their anger it's
a big thing and sometimes a make-or-break matter for them.
Being aware of
one's anger is most important and is the starting point to find ways to handle
it.
"PsyYoga methodology to handle anger involves awareness first and then isolate next."
How a PsyYogi
can create a 'real reality' in such a situation ?
For instance, you get angry with a person a specific reason and you know that reason very well, based on your psychology you are prone to derailing and deviate and go excess at times, now, embed the thought that you don't want to get angry on that particular person, come what may, into your psyche through 'PsyYoga Affirmations.' and when a particular angry situation does arise, your embedded instructions activate automatically, and saves you from falling prey to ravages of your anger bouts.
"Controlling negative emotions, and excesses in emotions, is the basic benefits of practicing PsyYoga."
Once you understand how to automate the actions that you actually intent to happen, in those situations you get closer to the real reality you want to be in. Being in complete reality, where you respond to life's changes and challenges based on the way you wanted it to be responded, and not with frustrations or random burst of emotions.
Real reality is where your heart speaks directly to people's hearts, wherein you'll be loved and adored. - PsyYoga.org
A reality wherein
the dualities and the extremes of life are perfectly smoothened-out, and life
becomes easy, and beautiful once again.
Happy Days!
