The beauty of our life
manifests itself in many ways.
But there exist the
dualities, the opposites alongside this beauty. Sometimes those dualities (like
the day and night) hit us back in much harsher ways than anticipated.
One such duality is frustration.
Frustration manifests
itself as the feeling of being very upset, or sometimes very annoyed, most of
the time it’s simply for the fact that something desirable is either
not achievable, our efforts towards achieving something is not fetching
the desired results, or an unpleasant issue or situation that's isn't
changeable despite our best efforts.
Frustrations keep
surfacing, echoing in our ears, sometimes reminding us of our bygone failures
or the ones that resulted out of our wrong actions or inactions.
Failures happen most
of the time due to inaction rather than action – PsyYoga.org
Consistent failures
lead to Frustrations which in turn makes an otherwise beautiful life into
an un-livable mess resulting in loss of inner balance.
Many people lose their
inner balance which could further result in bad temper, difficult
relationships, restlessness and ultimately untold sadness.
How an PsyYogi,
the practitioner of PsyYoga, an psychologically well balanced person
handles such a situation is brought out in this article.
To get a grip on the
dualities of life, PsyYoga is formulated as a simple tool to balance our psyche
by understanding ourselves better.
With little efforts,
and a deeper understanding of ourselves, we can
see astonishing results, we'll be able to appreciate our life and
others without giving in to the frustrations that ravage many of us like a mad
bull.
Read on...
Understanding is
primary in solving any problem.
Most frustrations stem
primarily from one or more of the following:
- Unable to earn money
in spite of best efforts
- Lack of love in
relationship or marriage
- Nagging health
issues that doesn't seem to resolve even after sustained efforts
- Stagnation or dealing
with the daily grind
- Lack of appreciation
or zest for life
- Tough and unbeatable
competition, unable to meet the targets
-External issues like
the one created by other people’s carelessness or insensitiveness
- Difficult situation
faced by our loved ones and unable to help them due to our
current circumstances
- Excesses in pain or
pleasure
Are some of the common
reasons for frustrations as one hits the wall? For most people it’s very rare
or occasional frustration but for a some its nagging and frequent.
Life is painful and
very difficult for them.
Continuous or
unresolved frustration leads to excess anger and an whole lot of negative
emotions.
How do we recognize
and arrest the frustration in the bud itself before it manifests into
anger.
Anger stems
from an advanced manifestation of frustrations. - PsyYoga.org
Understanding of
our self is the key to solve the problems that lay hidden deep within us.
Proper understanding
will aid in quick resolution of issues as they arise and help one lead a
beautiful life.
We need to come out of
the old mindset and embrace the new mindset.
Old
Mindset:
Something is wrong with me. I am not enough and I need to improve so that
negative things don’t happen to me. It happens only to me others are
enjoying their life. I’m unlucky and end up in issues and frustrations.
New Mindset:
I am human, and a lot can wrong with me and due to others I deal with. I have
been putting my best efforts but there are lots of things happening that are
beyond my control in this complex society. However, I use my tools and put my
best efforts to handle the things that are under my control skillfully.
Takeaway
one:
Even the top people in the world face frustrations at some point in their life.
The goal isn’t eliminating frustrations al together - it is finding methods and
tools to deal with them skillfully.
Takeaway two:
Conscious
breathing is another effective way to stay in grip when you feel frustrated.
This
can eliminate further escalation of the frustration into anger or other
undesired emotions leading to behavioral and judgment errors or hurling out
undesired words at someone.
Practicing
breath work in frustrated state acts like a valuable tool to counter it.
Our
aim is to be in a state of top mental fitness, that is in a state of readiness.
Readiness
to handle any eventualities or readiness to recover quickly from issues. Life
is not about staying perfect. Its about staying ready to respond to life's
challenges with preparedness.
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