When we are young and carefree with tons of time at hand, we think that the good times would last forever and everything will be the same. Parents and family will be with us forever.
And feel that we are invincible.
Some few people are lucky they get what they desire in life and feel successful.
What about others?
Those who get entangled in the complexities of life. Many things change alongside the fleeting time, both at our personal and
family level over the years.
On our job front, many of our colleagues leap frog their careers, complete
their higher education or skill training along with their jobs and quit their
job for a better career.
Its possible that, Back then, you couldn't make it to the top due to multiple self made and
system made constraints. Then you see that, within a few decades,
everyone had moved on and you were the last person standing in the same place.
Same job. Same life.
For people who don’t get ahead in this meritocratic society like ours, a
redundancy is almost like a given punishment by fate and forces us to accept
everyday with a pinch of salt, gulping down an unsatisfactory job, salary and
lifestyle, not so happy with what one has landed in life and career.
It feels like you've lost everything and feels that way most of the time. The fastest way to feel lost is to compare your situation to others.
It creates envy, jealousy, and never-ending frustration. If you compare your life to someone else’s, all you get is misery.
They are not you. You are not them.
We need to stop thinking everyone is better
or more perfect than we are but no one told me that then. In my
experience, I can tell you that the happiest people on the outside
could also often have the darkest secrets on their inside too.
So the solution is to focus on your current situation.
Quit comparing.
Then you slowly start to feel that you’re not behind in life. And aren’t failing.
You’re right where you need to be. You are doing the best you can with the
information you have.
The biggest achievements take decades of feeling lost in order to happen.
Actually, in what you’ve lost. May be you didn’t realize for many years that
you’ve also not lost so much.
In reality, life is far more than all of that. Yes! Life is far more than all
of that mess of achievements.
Because it’s not all that a sad story. The truth is that your losses have also
led to such enormous gains.
When we lose enough time, we become more humble. Periods of loss has paved the way to rediscover yourself.
What follows will be a period of humility.
You have to learn how little value people actually are when compared to nature and that’ll
take you to a life elevated from all other material or physical things and got
you closer to nature's level, at a divine level.
You’ll realize that sleeping with a calm
mind and waking up with gratitude was not a failure. It's indeed a success
too.
A stable lifelong job, a simple family and
life isn't something to complain about.
It’s also bringing out this hidden leadership potential as well. To lead yourself
alone and not go with the crowd.
You also realize that, If you look at frustrating situations with “look how bad
this is” it gets you nowhere. Look at what bad events are doing to you and
ask yourself, “What’s the opportunity here?” "Is it really that
bad" puts you in a better state to deal with it.
Learn to get "un-lost"
Happy Days!